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Tuesday, June 2, 2009

Does love Hurts?

Love doesn't hurt; on the contrary, it is amazing! It is the absence of mutual love that hurts.
Love is very a powerful and yet beautiful emotion. Love is a bond between two people that goes beyond logic and reason, one that overwhelms the mind and senses enough to do things that are inappropriate.You cannot choose who you love, and you cannot choose to just stop loving someone.

When only one person out of these two have this emotion they might not realize that the other might not reciprocate and it is this naivety that blinds them from the plain and simple truth that they might get hurt as if they were in a relationship that doesn't mean anything what so ever! When/if they do get hurt then they can't understand why this person, who apparently loved them, did what they did. The answer is quite simple: Either that other person doesn't reciprocate or they need reminding that what they are doing to those that they love the most is in fact hurting them! If they change their ways, at least enough to show that they desperately want to try, then they love you back. If they don't then they don't love you back. The main thing to KNOW, is that you are NOT the only one who has ever, or WILL ever, feel this way. Love does hurt especially if you have been betrayed by the one person that you felt was your life. it hurts the most especially when you put all your time an effort in order to try to make the other person as happy as they can be and regardless of all that work the one you love is not able to see how much you love them and they betray you.

In the end I would I like to add, Love should never hurt. Your words, your actions, your doubt's, insecurities, not wanting to really hear someone, respect someone, etc. is what HURTS the other person and therefore, hurts the relationship. Love to me means Learning what you and the other person you're involved with truly are inside and changing the things that don’t work for the betterment of your relationship.

Unfortunately the word love is used far too often or perhaps the bond associated with that word is perceived to be far stronger that it actually is.

11 comments:

Varuna Raina said...

hmm...
i could sense the essence,the fragrance,the vulnerability too,
the care and caution,the subtle expression of love which doesnot always asks but gives too!!!
well done bro!!!
keep blogging...
cheers!!!

lovey sahil said...

love is unconditioanl... and ever lasting.. when it is conditional .. it is not love.. think abt it..

Confused_Soul said...

@Varuna di..
thanks for appreciation..aapse itne acche comments mil gye thats so gud for me

@Sahil
I am thinking.............still thinking...:P

Jaunty anima said...

Are u in love sir?
coz writin this without being in love is like imposible...i could feel the emotions yahan tak.....:P
But really beautifully written..!!!

Confused_Soul said...

@Jaunty..
m nt gonna answer that question :P...so keep on guessing...

Sukriti said...

aftr quite a long tym u ve written..nd i cn understnd well y u ver absent...fr such a beautiful thought to b penned down it takes tym nd it ws woth it...u ve vry easily given wrds to a realtion of LOVE...making it quite simple to understnd what loving is all abt....
keeping posting such more thoughts

Confused_Soul said...

@Sukriti:
Thanku soo much for such a b-e-a-utiful comment....waise i really dont think k itna accha likha hai

Rahil said...

Sir lovely thoughts...and moreover beautifully expressed !!

Btw u keep asking me a question & u know my answer, this time i am asking u the same question - "Are u in love ??"...answer in just Yes or No..

Confused_Soul said...

No I am not in love :D

Sunita - The Me :) :) said...

A very beautiful topic and written very well :) but I sort of dont agree to it. Love should not hurt is a superficial statement. It is an emotion between 2 different people from entirely different worlds. To say that their actions would be compatible to each other is totally flawed statement. And yes I am in love, actually hopelessly in love with no chance of recovery :) :) but does it hurt yes it does at times.. but the healer is also the same love...I love the way you have expressed it :)

Skywalker said...

@Sunita: Point taken..and thanks for appreciating my write up. :)